It’s back-to-school season around Australia. While many students will be excited to reunite with friends, or about the first day, others may feel an overwhelming sense of dread about school.
This can be confusing and worrying for parents.
We are researching child and parent perspectives about what is making school too stressful to attend. We have found it is useful to think about school attendance asthat may look like reluctance at one end and at the other.
Understanding the difference can help you to know which supports to seek for your child.
School attendance in Australia
Last week, showed school attendance continues to be an issue in Australian schools post-COVID.
In 2024, school attendance rates (the number of days students attend) for Years 1–10 was 88.3%. This is down slightly from 88.6% in 2023. Student attendance levels (the percentage of students who go for more than 90% of the time) was 59.8% in 2024, down from 61.6% in 2023.
In 2019, national attendance rates were 91.4% and attendance levels were 73.1%.
While these reports don’t tell us why the figures are dropping, we know school refusal is a common and growing issue. A 2023 heard how family requests for support to groups such as School Can’t Australia have almost .
A 2023 of 1,000 families found 39% said their child had been unable to attend school in the past year because of anxiety or stress.
What is school reluctance?
Sometimes children and young people will not want to go to school but it is not school refusal.
When this is temporary and tied to a specific stressor, such as a test, social conflict, sports lesson or event like a camp or swimming carnival, it can be described as .
Signs can include clinginess in younger children or teenagers, as well as complaints of seemingly such as a tummy ache, headache or “feeling sick”.
In these cases, it is important for parents to validate a child’s feelings. Using phrases such as “I can see you’re nervous about starting a new class” can make children feel .
Families should also set up predictable morning routines to help children build. If you celebrate small wins, such as completing the day, or getting to school on time, you can help boost .
These can help avoid escalation into more significant school-related distress.
When it’s more than reluctance
But at other times, a child’s issues with school are more serious and a child feels overwhelmed by stressors that make attending school feel threatening, unsafe and impossible. This is what is seen as , although some families and researchers are now using the term “school can’t” to reframe the issue and avoid blaming children in these situations.
Some signs this could be happening to your child include:
- spending significant portions of the school day in the office or sick bay
- extreme difficulty in getting ready in the morning, even with basic tasks such as dressing or making breakfast
- such as nausea or dizziness that worsen on school days, but may also be evident on weekends
- persistent absences from school, even with encouragement and support
- – crying, anger or complete withdrawal – when school is mentioned.
Who can be impacted?
Reports show school refusal is more common in some groups, for example , , and students born with (also known as intersex variations / traits).
School refusal is with social anxiety, separation anxiety and school anxiety. This anxiety can become overwhelming and trigger a student’s need to that is causing them emotional distress. For these students, not going to school might be a or .
Whatever the reason, we know this can lead to stress and conflict for families. For students, it can have long-term effects on as well as after they leave school.
Supporting your child
If your child is refusing or can’t go to school, they need your empathy and support. Listen to them and be their advocate. Remember, you know them best. You can also:
- seek professional help. A uncover and address the root causes of their distress
- work with the school. Talk to teachers and staff about accommodations such as flexible schedules or sensory breaks, and how else they may offer inclusive, affirming and supportive learning environments
- think outside the box. This can include over attendance. Consider a break from schooling or , which may suit your family better
- seek support from other families. You are – there are who share this experience.
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